The Art of Tipping for Church Goers

It breaks my heart to see in the news that people who go church on Sundays (maybe even on Wednesday) leave notes on their bills stating ridiculous reasons why they didn't leave a tip. The latest one, had to do with a former Marine who happened to be gay. This infuriates me to no end. I despise bad tippers in the first place. To not leave a tip because of some 'moral' code? That's just wrong.

Here are the pro tip for tipping:

If you go to a restaurant to eat and there is a server that takes your order and brings you said order. You tip them.

Hard concept, I know. 

Now, I'm not 100% sure that the family in this story goes to church or not. If they do, they need to get right with God. I'm not a great theologian by any stretch of the imagination, but I do know that God judges us by our hearts. If we, as Christians, continue to short change people like this, it will do two things. 1) Show that we thinks more of a lawful nature than we do people. (Read Jesus' lifeline once. Which did he care about more?) 2) It closes any door we might have had to share the gift of salvation that we are commanded to do. Why would I want to follow a God who's followers treat me like scum? 

I know I will be attacked for my faith. I was warned about it. Its in the Bible and everything! I want to be attacked because I don't follow the rules of the world, not because I treated someone as a 'less than'. Every time I hear that's how people believe Christians act, it breaks my heart. Jesus came for the broken, for the sick, for the 'less thans'. We are to be like Jesus. I treat people how I want to be treated. 

So I guess what I'm trying to say here, if you are Christian and you go out to the world, check the plank in your eye before you go after the speck of dust in someone else's eye.

Dear People of Walmart & the Kind

Do yourself a solid & buy a full length mirror. Trust me on this one.

Next, learn how to respect yourself. People treat you by how you present yourself. If you dress like garbage, you'll get treated like garbage.

Don't anybody want to see your shit stained pants, your boobs tucked into your pants with no shirt on, the pee bag strapped to your ankle, or your back boobs. There is just not enough eye bleach for that.

Also, please get close to your size when buying clothing. Women, if you are a size 22, for the love of God, do NOT try to squeeze into a size 14. Fabric can only take so much strain. Men, if your waistline measures at a 32", don't wear a 38" (or larger). Trust me when I say, no one wants to see your underoos. 

Some other things you might want to consider:
- showering on a regular basis
- brushing your hair
- brushing & flossing your teeth
- wearing the right size bra (if you're a woman)
- standing up straight
- picking your feet up when you walk

Don't blame others for your lot in life if you choose to dress & take care of yourself poorly. That's on you. Take a minute or two before walking out the door, and look in the mirror. You'll be amazed at the difference it makes in your life.

For every one who has to look at you, please take these tips into consideration. Thanks!

How Common is Courtesy?

Now I know I am no Emily Post, but I have some manners. Yes, I understand that etiquette is slightly different than manners, but go with me on this one. The more I venture out of my social circle into more of world, I have found out not a lot of people have this thing called common courtesy.

I was taught that manners were used to make others feel comfortable & respected. When I was in the hospital when I was younger, my parents made me write thank you notes to those who visited me & brought gifts to keep me busy. At 13, I thought it was stupid, but I did it anyway. Now that I'm older, I understand better. It's just good manners to thank people for their time.

A little over a week ago, my niece was married. YAY! Her mother was doing the cooking for the reception. My niece sent out the invitations with the RSVP cards in time to make sure her mother knew how much to make. So, two things happened with poor manners (or no common courtesy): #1~ She sent an invite to one her dad's friend, did not put down & guest, but his son invited himself anyway. (My niece didn't want the son there, but didn't want drama over it, so she let it passed) #2~ Less than a week before the wedding, people called up or in casual conversation said they were coming. Too late, the food has been bought. The wheels are in motion.

Those things did upset me. But there is one more thing that happened that day they really made me angry. I will put this disclaimer down now, I'm old school when it comes to formal events. Her niece & her husband were having a formal wedding, they had friends show up looking like they just rolled out of bed. Seriously? They have planned for months for these short few hours. You were kept in the loop of what was happening that day, & you couldn't find something decent to wear? I find that inconsiderate.

Now that my little rant is done, now on to other things. I never really thought much about manners until I met people that didn't have them. Little things, like constantly interrupting conversations. I have to say, with all the rudeness I find, I also see the good. While I was at Blog Con, I saw a lot good manners, especially when it came to the men. Saw men find a seat for ladies when they came outside to smoke. One night, I witnessed a man make sure that everyone had a seat in the restaurant before he would sit down & relax. On my last night there, I shared a taxi with two gentlemen. When it came to pay the driver, I got out my wallet, was told to put it away, they had it.

It's out there. I've seen it. The only way we can see more of it, is to demand it. Too many times, we've allowed people to be rude because we don't want to seem rude ourselves. Well, I for one will not stand for it any longer! I let people know when they are out of line. I don't shout it in their face, because that would be rude, but they know where I stand. I believe taking little steps like this can change your own little corner of the world into a more pleasant one.

Have a beautifully awesome day!